It is a good time to continue to reflect. As the year comes to a close and a new one is approaching, I wonder if humans will keep ruminating about the old past, keep repeating the same pattern of inner conflict within the self, and projecting the world around them, losing their sense of life and their existance. Patterns keep repeating themselves; welcome to the world of default mode network, feeling comfortable with repeating the same pattern of rumination and crying over the spilled milk, or nothing is going to change, the negative thinking embedded from ancestral trauma and the fear response, the high active insula cortex, anterior cingulate cortex, amygdala, medial prefrontal cortex, the pons, the medulla oblongata among others for the threat, arousal response increasing the sympathetic response, fight-flight-freeze. It is already built within all mammals for survival. However, life experiences, interpersonal relationships, and inner and outside conflicts heightened the threat response over time to become neuroadaptive, automatically occurring once the brain's computational highspeed process compares the stimuli with old patterns embedded in the basal ganglia, hippocampus and occipital lobe, olfactory system, and the transduction in the skin your one of the major brains in your biological systems. You function in the world; hyperarousal is the normal response, and the body survives on alerts 24/7, gradually compromising human health.
The heightened threat response developed with early adverse life events, including trauma, abuse, maltreatment, witnessing domestic violence, unhealthy relationships, discrimination, segregation, exclusion, and all other negative actions that compromise the human perception of the world around them. They perceive the world as unsafe; they don't belong, and no one wants them. This is happening to them because they deserve it and are bad, false beliefs". As humans, families, communities, and societies use maladaptive behavior as the norm, everyone around will perceive it as normal. The abusive pattern continues, getting unnoticed and leading to more maladaptive behaviors and mental conflicts within the vulnerable ones that shape 20% of any community, taking into account that humans inherited the survival mechanisms from ancestors and developed into a complex trauma response over time with repeated abusive pattern from humans to humans regardless their age or status.
Unfortunately, the internal maladaptive patterns of interpersonal relationship dynamics expand to work, communities projecting the unresolved or self-hate unto others who may seem they got it right while they are not. Some are good at masking their own trauma as if they got it all together within hidden turmoil of shame, fear, and guilt. Some do not know how to keep unhealthy ways with their fear, guilt, and shame. They seek numbness through whatever is around them, thinking they will escape this state of shame, and guild with increased internal pain, which gradually changes the neurophysiology and how the cell function and their biological systems become a fertile land for all the unwanted cytokines, chemokines, and complement cascade. Human brains are wired differently. Some get rewarded by helping others and doing something good, some seek tangible incentives to feel good about themselves, and some feel good when they hurt, harm, abuse, cause pain, or struggle in others' lives. And we can not know which brain is in front of us. However, there are red flags to watch when there is interpersonal communication, relationship, or collaboration with a dysfunctional dynamic. First, when they deny acknowledging how you feel or want to express your voice. When they groom you until they get what they want, they give you the silent treatment. They make you feel bad about yourself and what you do. They like your co-dependency and limit your freedom of choice or decision-making. They ridicule your sense of self, independence, and how you think. Portray the image among others that you are not mentally ok, and they are worried about you. They love to put you down, belittle, gaslight, and ignore your boundaries. They grow up in a dysfunctional dynamic; therefore, they don't see it as dysfunctional, and it gives them power and control over the target or the vulnerable one. They see themselves as the smartest person on earth as they normally get what they want. They love to intimidate you alone and humiliate you in public when it is safe for them to do so. They like to corner you. You feel helpless and intimidated; no one can believe you if you speak up. When you speak up, they plan their attack when you are alone; they deplete your resources, ensuring your codependency will continue. They are not happy when you are happy. They are not happy with any accomplishment you do. You will never be enough, and you will never measure up. They don't like you to succeed; they love your challenges and struggles as that is their reward or drive for happiness. Hurt people hurt people. I repeat it: hurt people hurt people unless someone understands the red flags and starts learning their value in GOD. Unfortunately, maltreatment, abuse, and unhealthy relationships leave their permanent markers on the neurophysiology at an early age; unspecified injuries change the function and structure of the brain, the world perception, and the sense of self-acting from the threat response "the world is a not safe place to be."
The psychosocial, socioeconomic, emotional, and maladaptive behaviors are collective injuries caused by humans toward humans, forgetting the right to live in freedom and choose who you want to be. The modern world has turned to an open sanctuary arena for self-imprisonment in the vicious cycle of maladaptive patterns, with the inability to acknowledge, address, and heal the inner self. The vulnerable will continue to be the victims as they don't have a sense of self, are controlled by co-dependency, and inability to learn how to value themselves. Modern life slavery of abandonment, neglect, control, and manipulation of resources and humans. Life is tough, and it gets tougher when those we should trust and feel safe around don't happen anymore in most situations. Accumulating a toxic load of relationships, dynamics, and functions leads to diseases that become the norm of modern society, ignoring the value of human existence and the right to live with respect and dignity. It becomes a toxic load that hinders the presence of hope to spread around. We must acknowledge human life without labels, affiliations to specific groups of beliefs, or ways of life. It becomes a personal responsibility if the person wants to believe that GOD is for them, that He will never forsake them, and that His promises are true. His promises never fail. The captivity of humans to humans is nothing but a dysfunctional dynamic left ignored for decades. The malfunction in human life is built upon the survival mode of our ancestors, and we had it as part of our human life inheritance, yet you have the right to reject it and start a whole new inheritance in partnership with GOD, for He is good. He is faithful, and He will never leave you or forsake you. He is the greatest thinker, engineer, scientist, and all the world is His own.. Try to see your value in His gracious, loving, kind eyes... Peace!!! By: ME, "The old ancient woman."
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