Why context matter?

 

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     Hello, There. 

    Days pass by, and the world around us still changing dramatically even if it is hard to notice. Change occurs with the season, and regrouping occurs in the silence, the masking of surrendering. The uncertainty, ambiguity, and the camouflage of identities, the copycat behaviors, the provocative statements, and variation of postings, and images, and yet the change is inevitable. Many proclaim that the cold season makes people hibernate, and unmotivated, however, don't underestimate the quietness, and stillness of the wolf waiting for the moment to strike. The human-animal mammalian reptilian brain is the core driver of the behavior, and it is hard to faint. 

   

   My fascination with the mammalian reptilian brain started more than a decade ago, trying to grasp why? and how for better understanding it is the survival brain, competition brain, the in-group driver of behaviors, beliefs, attitudes, and recoup. The smoother the tone, the sharper the bite emotionally, and psychologically. In a competitive world rivalry, opponent, or opposition takes many shapes and forms, and here is why context matters? From the Ecological human model, context is critical in shaping the human beliefs, attitudes, and perceptions about the world they are supposed to belong to. Forming the first belief models about intrapersonal, and interpersonal relationships. However, in the world of hierarchy, individuals have to be shaped in specific order, liability, and usage. It is a complex dynamic controlled by socioeconomic, political, religious, environmental, family history, medical history, social class, demographic, and geographic factors specifically age, gender, race, and ethnicity. Complex algorithms may shape double-edged weapons either for good or not good. The algorithms are run by many sophisticated software or artificial intelligence models that are highly complex, not the ones offered to the public to provide basic information. It is a highly sophisticated algorithm. 

  

    The old nomadic, original, genuine model of human interaction and communication is not the model in high operative dynamics that looks for big figures and goals beyond what the average person could think about. Here, humans turn to a formula or algorithms to function according to the purpose of the grand goals based on the tribal algorithms. The likelihood of the context in which information is provided is critical to shaping human perception, choices, and decision-making. Therefore the altruistic approach is a mask for the real goal of motive to take place utilizing the right context to attain the goal. Hence, the goal is the main schema, not the person. The philosophical framework about deceit and perception is complex as it requires developing a high degree of observation of changes around you within the given context. Who is delivering the message, when and the medium used in delivering the message tell a lot of sensory input to the brain to process comparing it with previous programming and a change in perception occurs. The hardest point to fathom in human behavior is perception change and whether you are being lied to or deceived to bring specific outcomes or attain the goal. 

     Individuals with adverse life experiences (ALE), early childhood experiences (ACEs) coming from neglect, abuse, abandonment, violence, high rate crime, dark triad, socioeconomic status, and low level of education are highly susceptible to being used in these algorisms each according to the goal designed by the grand schema of socio-economic, political, religious, and demographic changes based on age, gender, race, and ethnicity. The modification within the ecological human model when presents perceptual outcomes, not truth or realities. Hence, do you think you have been in these situations or experienced a context to change your perception? if yes, was it a change for good, or were you left with the sense of shame and guilt that you are deceived which will break your confidence, self-esteem, and self-efficacy or autonomy that you are free? 

   Perceptual outcomes have no authentic relationships, true bonding, or empathy. They are behavioral models for temporary goal-attaining and task accomplishments. Those are come from trauma backgrounds and have this deeper longing to belong, be accepted, and be welcomed into a community. However, these are the contexts that are being used to attain goals away from their own being. They are left confused, questioning whether what they experienced is real, or whether they are being rejected over and over adding to their sense of shame, guilt, and fear when it can turn into the lowest point in their life to be victimized again through either another traumatized person who sought risky behaviors for adaptation or maladaptive behaviors including co-dependency from one relationship to the other including substance use, or controlled by dark triad to harm themselves or others, or being used by Alpha charismatic persona to be used as a tool toward the grandiose of plans to satisfy the ego, and sense of power and control infusing control and fear to drive the dopamine spike, and sense of superiority. The dynamic outcome one is exhausted and depleted, and the other is feeling the grandiosity and the dopamine spike in their muscles. The context resembles the trainer and the exotic animal to tame to get the sense of power and control, and dopamine spikes into their muscles which are their sense of pride the physical strength over the other by the end of each exercise, or experience. 

   However, you start to feel confused, question yourself, and your realities, feel depleted, and exhausted, and don't feel joy from the things you do, think about what contexts are provided to you throughout the day. Am I in a position of giving only, never been enough, or there are always defeating messages from the environment, groups around, lack of support, lack of empowerment, and development, being lost in the drama, anxiety, suppression of your emotions, offered unhealthy options, and choices, being trapped in vicious cycle of what happened to you, and your emotional symptoms turn into physical symptoms, congratulations your trauma is being used, and you are one of the algorisms in the grand schema of perceptual outcomes. Probably you are isolated, many stories are spread about you, and you walk from one hardship to another, congratulations you are a lab rat in the new grad schema of human algorisms especially when the alphas understand you are well caged, and they are in control and no way you will be set free as it is all mental game, and you are the only one who will be labeled, accused, and coded mentally ill and many other perceptual schemas will be used to confirm the hypothesis in a new world fake altruism with open experimentations on humans. 

     The true connection will leave you content, connected, with more serotonin and oxytocin, giving you a sense of purpose, and a well-lived life. You won't feel fear, shame, guilt, or low self-esteem when you experience true connection and authentic relationships. Reread how fake altruism makes you feel, and the opposite occurs with the true authentic relationship. They won't put you in hardships or laugh at you when you are tired or distressed. They won't label you or spread rumors or stories about you to put you in bondage, and caged in the perceptual outcomes. They wish you well in life, and support when needed, and you feel natural joy when you see each other even if you haven't seen each other for long, that is the true authentic connection and it is hard to find within the overwhelming of masking fake altruistic relationships. it is not too late to take inventory of the contexts you have experienced and exposed to, and filter the ones that sound healthy, authentic, and bring joy into your life, as you are consumed enough and that is against GOD's will. Whoever used or abused your trauma GOD is not in their mind or ever been in their lives they are so busy by control than GOD... Peace!!! by: ME, "The old ancient woman." 

 

Fighting the shadow self-------------

 

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Hello, There, 

    

     It is me again, the time of reflection still going on. It is when humans can face to face with complex realities to accept. It is time to admit what had left; the wishes, dreams, hopes, and longing to exist never came to reality. Yet, why do humans have to walk this road of fighting with their shadow selves? The other version of you may not be the decent, welcoming one. The beast within is driven by the limbic, autonomic response, filled with anger and hatred, even to the self. It is a phase of the human-animal that keeps its survival mechanism to navigate the wilderness of the journey called life. What life you have been chasing and allowed the space and the seeds of anger, frustration, and hatred to self grow year after year, programming the body action like a wild wandering beast within the wilderness where there is no peace or even a meaning of life. It is an exhausting and undesirable outcome of fighting the shadow self. The projected anger and frustration reflect self-rejection while trying to assume it is someone else. What type of life made you the version of a restless mind chasing the shadows, getting nothing but tiredness and loss of life. 

   

    Navigating through the world of lost chances or lost self within the shadow overwhelms the way of thinking, doing, and behaving; it is the world of undesirable life outcomes. Fighting with the shadow of self-made you far from yourself and even feeling the sense of life within. It is a wasteful energy to waste life on chasing, racing, and fighting the shadow self within anything or anyone that brings the sense of regret, guilt, and sadness of the lost self through phases of wishing, dreaming, and hoping that something will change. However, you are fighting a lost battle, allowing the seep of sickness to find its way through your ignored life and loading your mind and body with undesirable outcomes within something called life. Inviting unhealthy seeds to accumulate through the days, years, and even nights where you lose the sense of self. Why did all this about, or did the desire to bring the same unto others become an obsession that generically comes through each breath you take. I am sorry you got it all wrong; you allowed seeds of doubt, neglect, and sadness to seep through your beliefs, letting you forget everything about the sun and its phases, yet never lost its essence of being the source of warmth, light, and joy even in a rainy day. The wonders of life, the air, sun, and light, walk through every breath you take and provide hope after the night. I am sorry that you deny all these blessings and hold onto limited desires that won't be the same every day, won't exist through the ups and downs, and only for those who can afford them. Life turned out to be like a commodity that expires with the season it is made in. 

       Even as I grow older, I still wonder why humans persist in losing themselves? Why easily give up on the free gift of life? Why do they hate? Why do they fight? Witnessing both kingdoms of humans and animals, the wild beast in the human still shows up to exhaust everyone and everything around. I no longer care when I see it as an easy waste of life. I will not shout out loud every time I witness the fight of the shadow self taking away any chance of a peaceful life. Life comes with a huge responsibility toward ourselves and others, yet the human beast made enough harm to become a game of life. Fighting the shadow self won't get anything but exhaustion and missing out on life. Many are so smart yet can't see themselves. Others see them yet allow the beast to destroy, harm, and hurt whoever they encounter.

I don't care what language you speak, color, race, ethnicity, or social status unless we understand the value of life. The human-human hasn't existed yet.  Hence, the law that rules the animal kingdom will be ok in the human-animal world. Hence, nothing is guaranteed, safe, or can be trusted. In each of us, there's the part that reflects the shadow self, which can be uncontrollable with pressure, stress, comparison self-rejection, or self-hate. Here, it is up to you to look within to understand which side of the shadow self you want to tame and bring the higher order of thinking when life challenges are meant to make you strong and show you a better you who can do wonderful things. Looking to own the whole world quickly at any cost will eventually cost you yourself. 

    Many are blessed and can't see their blessings; many are surrounded by care, love, and attention and can't see it or take it for granted, allowing the shadow self to control every aspect of their mind, life, and how they see the world. Many have abilities and do not want to grow or use them for good. Many are gifted with the life that many wish to have, yet undermine whatever they have by seeking wasteful habits, relationships, and behaviors that alienate them from themselves. Your shadow self is lying to you, taking you on the road of many regrets when there is no time to undo what has been done. Human thinking, false beliefs, and perceptions can contribute to many undesirable life outcomes. Each day is an opportunity to understand why you allow your shadow self to take more space in your life and waste it in nothing but exhausted trails of nothingness. All bad energies are loud voices of the shadow self.....acknowledge and invite the better version of you to tame the beast that takes nothing but wasting lives. Peace!!!! BY: ME, "The old ancient woman." 

Abandonment--- self- abandonment.... co-dependency and the attachment style in association with Early life adversity

 

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          How far have you been in the time of reflection, recalling events, memories, and incidents that shaped your moment perception of the world around you? Let's return to the moments of learning and realizing early life events when the child within hasn't felt being seen, heard, or attuned to. The inner child wonders what fault you have done? How many times was your voice suppressed and ignored? How often have you tried to please others, adult, young, or in between, to feel seen and heard or to please them due to fear, intimidation, or the cold shoulders you get, raising the sense of early life abandonment? You learned your voice doesn't matter, your emotions and feelings don't matter, and everything has to be about that other than you gradually groomed into self-abandonment, ignoring the inner piece of yourself and who you once felt are you, no one else. You started pretending, saying yes when you should say no, accepting the dysfunction, and allowing your boundaries to be pushed away. 

         The development of disorganized boundaries, non-rigid boundaries, and seeking survival increase the psychological burden of promoting diseases as you walk through life seeking survival, pleasing others, suppressing how you feel, how you want things to be, and denying your wishes and dreams, shadowing the absence other, and gradually you become absent too. Many people haven't grown up in a family aware of healthy relationships, healthy boundaries, respect for the other, and self-respect. They grew up repeating the same unhealthy patterns of abandoning themselves for the sake of pleasing others and survival mode. Many women fall prey to this pattern of disoriented cultural, socioeconomic, and ethical structures as the social norm activating their gene predisposition to disease and having a high prevalence in many chronic illnesses as if women and girls are predisposed to self-abandonment when society denies their voice, emotions, feelings, wished and dreams. Some say it is not only the interpersonal toxic load. There are many other factors associated with the prevalence of the disease. I responded YES, foods, air pollution, medications, lead, mercury, fluoride, contraception bills, injuries, low-grade inflammation, sleep, age, gender, zip code, socioeconomic status, lifestyle, substance use, tobacco, smoking, alcohol, and many other factors in interactions with the environment and changes in cell function, and never underestimate self-abandonment, trauma, stress, and ignoring the self either due to fear, intimidation, limitations, isolation, and unhealthy relations dynamics at all levels internal and external. When women and girls deny who they are and allow the world to shape them. At the same time, their emotional well-being is manipulated, abused, and misused; we are facing a social justice phenomenon that run through cultures and socioeconomic, political, and religious classes for decades. 

     

     When you realize that emotional well-being has never been part of social awareness, we go back to the human nature of controlling human beings and suppressing their emotional well-being, leading to chronic illness and more and more self-abandonment. It is never too late for girls and young women to educate themselves on emotional well-being and its effect on the cellular level. And how you should start with trusted resources and not fall again into the trap of emotional manipulation. Unfortunately, for centuries, women and girls have been the primary targets of societal agenda through emotional manipulation to be used and abused. Many lost their existence in the world, lost their respect and identity, and contributed to self-abandonment. While some chose to be the manipulators and make up for their early abandonment to suppress others even if they are the same gender, they learned the controller and the abuser game. Hence, the mixed perception made the truth complex: who is the abused, and who is the controller? It becomes vague and unclear what is what and how to differentiate. However, if it doesn't feel right? It is not right. If it doesn't feel authentic, it is not authentic. If it causes stress and discomfort, it is unsafe to be.

     

     The toxic inherited load over centuries shaped communities, institutions, and individuals. It is deeply rooted in many cultures, socioeconomic classes, and group dynamics. The animal, reptilian, and mammalian brains require decades to unwind, rewire, and reconsider what is healthy when everything unhealthy makes humans sick. We live in an age when unhealthy behaviors and relationships are the norm, and that is unsafe, leading to more self-abandonment. It takes courage for humans to stop this unhealthy self-abandonment dynamic and rewind and rewire healthy patterns, habits, and mindsets. It takes courage to understand that human life is precious in GOD's eyes and everything good is from GOD---- Peace!!! By: ME, "The old ancient woman." 

The periodic conflict with the self

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  It is a good time to continue to reflect. As the year comes to a close and a new one is approaching, I wonder if humans will keep ruminating about the old past, keep repeating the same pattern of inner conflict within the self, and projecting the world around them, losing their sense of life and their existance. Patterns keep repeating themselves; welcome to the world of default mode network, feeling comfortable with repeating the same pattern of rumination and crying over the spilled milk, or nothing is going to change, the negative thinking embedded from ancestral trauma and the fear response, the high active insula cortex, anterior cingulate cortex, amygdala, medial prefrontal cortex, the pons, the medulla oblongata among others for the threat, arousal response increasing the sympathetic response, fight-flight-freeze. It is already built within all mammals for survival. However, life experiences, interpersonal relationships, and inner and outside conflicts heightened the threat response over time to become neuroadaptive, automatically occurring once the brain's computational highspeed process compares the stimuli with old patterns embedded in the basal ganglia, hippocampus and occipital lobe, olfactory system,  and the transduction in the skin your one of the major brains in your biological systems. You function in the world; hyperarousal is the normal response, and the body survives on alerts  24/7, gradually compromising human health. 

    The heightened threat response developed with early adverse life events, including trauma, abuse, maltreatment, witnessing domestic violence, unhealthy relationships, discrimination, segregation, exclusion, and all other negative actions that compromise the human perception of the world around them. They perceive the world as unsafe; they don't belong, and no one wants them. This is happening to them because they deserve it and are bad, false beliefs". As humans, families, communities, and societies use maladaptive behavior as the norm, everyone around will perceive it as normal. The abusive pattern continues, getting unnoticed and leading to more maladaptive behaviors and mental conflicts within the vulnerable ones that shape 20% of any community, taking into account that humans inherited the survival mechanisms from ancestors and developed into a complex trauma response over time with repeated abusive pattern from humans to humans regardless their age or status. 

    Unfortunately, the internal maladaptive patterns of interpersonal relationship dynamics expand to work, communities projecting the unresolved or self-hate unto others who may seem they got it right while they are not. Some are good at masking their own trauma as if they got it all together within hidden turmoil of shame, fear, and guilt. Some do not know how to keep unhealthy ways with their fear, guilt, and shame. They seek numbness through whatever is around them, thinking they will escape this state of shame, and guild with increased internal pain, which gradually changes the neurophysiology and how the cell function and their biological systems become a fertile land for all the unwanted cytokines, chemokines, and complement cascade. Human brains are wired differently. Some get rewarded by helping others and doing something good, some seek tangible incentives to feel good about themselves, and some feel good when they hurt, harm, abuse, cause pain, or struggle in others' lives. And we can not know which brain is in front of us. However, there are red flags to watch when there is interpersonal communication, relationship, or collaboration with a dysfunctional dynamic. First, when they deny acknowledging how you feel or want to express your voice. When they groom you until they get what they want, they give you the silent treatment. They make you feel bad about yourself and what you do. They like your co-dependency and limit your freedom of choice or decision-making. They ridicule your sense of self, independence, and how you think. Portray the image among others that you are not mentally ok, and they are worried about you. They love to put you down, belittle, gaslight, and ignore your boundaries. They grow up in a dysfunctional dynamic; therefore, they don't see it as dysfunctional, and it gives them power and control over the target or the vulnerable one. They see themselves as the smartest person on earth as they normally get what they want. They love to intimidate you alone and humiliate you in public when it is safe for them to do so. They like to corner you. You feel helpless and intimidated; no one can believe you if you speak up. When you speak up, they plan their attack when you are alone; they deplete your resources, ensuring your codependency will continue. They are not happy when you are happy. They are not happy with any accomplishment you do. You will never be enough, and you will never measure up. They don't like you to succeed; they love your challenges and struggles as that is their reward or drive for happiness. Hurt people hurt people. I repeat it: hurt people hurt people unless someone understands the red flags and starts learning their value in GOD. Unfortunately, maltreatment, abuse, and unhealthy relationships leave their permanent markers on the neurophysiology at an early age; unspecified injuries change the function and structure of the brain, the world perception, and the sense of self-acting from the threat response "the world is a not safe place to be." 

    The psychosocial, socioeconomic, emotional, and maladaptive behaviors are collective injuries caused by humans toward humans, forgetting the right to live in freedom and choose who you want to be. The modern world has turned to an open sanctuary arena for self-imprisonment in the vicious cycle of maladaptive patterns, with the inability to acknowledge, address, and heal the inner self. The vulnerable will continue to be the victims as they don't have a sense of self, are controlled by co-dependency, and inability to learn how to value themselves. Modern life slavery of abandonment, neglect, control, and manipulation of resources and humans. Life is tough, and it gets tougher when those we should trust and feel safe around don't happen anymore in most situations. Accumulating a toxic load of relationships, dynamics, and functions leads to diseases that become the norm of modern society, ignoring the value of human existence and the right to live with respect and dignity. It becomes a toxic load that hinders the presence of hope to spread around. We must acknowledge human life without labels, affiliations to specific groups of beliefs, or ways of life. It becomes a personal responsibility if the person wants to believe that GOD is for them, that He will never forsake them, and that His promises are true. His promises never fail. The captivity of humans to humans is nothing but a dysfunctional dynamic left ignored for decades. The malfunction in human life is built upon the survival mode of our ancestors, and we had it as part of our human life inheritance, yet you have the right to reject it and start a whole new inheritance in partnership with GOD, for He is good. He is faithful, and He will never leave you or forsake you. He is the greatest thinker, engineer, scientist, and all the world is His own.. Try to see your value in His gracious, loving, kind eyes... Peace!!! By: ME, "The old ancient woman."