How many of us realized that there are certain repetitive patterns that occur in our daily interactions with others especially when backgrounds are different? - The first impression does not last so long? The more you go in life, the shortest the honeymoon becomes shorter and shorter, by means reality reveals itself and the same pattern is repeating itself. When our work life becomes more subjective not objective. When boundaries are not respected when you are judged harshly and the blame is being shifted on you. You are bad. When you are hated by those recently met with you. They can not stand to be with you in one room, back talking started, the pity mommy pattern revealed itself in the workplace, putting more fuel into the fire, the grouping started to shape its coalition and networking through cell phones become the job not what is in front in my hand. When a person walked in a place standing on their tiptoe to be angry about any type of conversation coming out of a certain person, by means" The smell of gas" as they name them," the belittling", the rambling person, bipolar, crazy, arrogant, whispering while talking in their presence, pinch and stop talking in their presence, using the policing and micromanagement strategies to interpret each word and action that person does, each according to their beliefs. So every day is another ash and another drop of fuel til one speck of flame will explode the heat of the fire in the place.
Then we ask why young children lack empathy, kindness, compassion, and gentleness? being busy with judging certain persons as they do not fit in the cultural frame of acceptance. They do not fall into the familiar category that inner circles have and one size fits all strategy. It is hard to spot to be in as along the road you are marked, labeled and a big red line when your name is mentioned. Wondering if this what life is all about, being subjective and inboxing others to where they are easily controlled. Children do what they see. They imitate adults patterns as their brain developed and trying to build a tank of patterns to associate within their daily life. So why we ask children to be nice and we as adults deep within are so selective about that? Why are we asking children to tell the truth while we hide the truth from each other, back talking and changing the tune according to who it is addressed? Why are we ask our children to say how they feel and we get outrageous when we talk about our feelings to each other? in the real world we are teaching our kids skills we don't have. And since you are the example and the architecture of a child's brain build up, we are sending confusing messages to them. The child mind is a speed train calculations, they count how many a certain pattern is repeated, the higher the number of the pattern is repeated, that what will stick in their memory and we ask ourselves from where our kids get these types of behaviors?
A child is mirroring everything around them along the way they get what they want. If we look carefully to ourselves, we are the ones who need the skills we are trying to teach them. We do live in a world filled with compromises, no boundaries, respect to those who are different from us. Or those who do not look like us or live like us. Confirmation bias rules the day, looking for pieces of evidence in the person's behaviors to judge, condemn, label, inbox, exclude, one another. We do live in a hurting world, focusing on the lack, measure each other by inch in a sugar-coated formula that does not last forever. Can we ask ourselves, did we earn this nature from parents, relatives, society or community and gradually double standard becomes the norm? This person is yes, that person is no and your list is ready to condemn. So, how do we find ourselves punishing our kids for their behavior which from the root it sprouts from within, copying the same most repetitive patterns around them? Living in a hostile culture in order to get ahead, we have to put someone out, down or erase them and weed them from the place, So true acceptance does not exist, we can say it is a pragmatic culture depends on needs and wants. I connect only with those who think like me, live like me and their ambitions are like me, personal interest is number one, being closer to those who are willing to be subjective '
If we would like to peel off this load out of our shoulders as it makes our breath is so hard and feet are glued to the floor or we are on the fight or flight game, the anxiousness starts to fill the place in the presence of unwanted people. So why we ask our children to get along with their friends, share, care, take turns and we as adults struggle deeply with this stuff? We are selective to who we will accept, respect, support, interact with, share with, or even hang out with. Are we talking loud to ourselves?
From generation to generation survival model leads humans to develop certain behaviors to feel safe, strong and empowered and these behaviors spontaneously become who we are and how we show up in the world. Going out in the world humans by nature become anxious about finding the same patterns in others so they can relate and the circle gets bigger. If you are odd, so good luck as you will be in a big fun ride till your ground is being shaken. And the cycle goes on and on and on, leaving a world of adversity and complex picture to understand.
What if we look within and search and listen who we truly are and what God has created me to be and turning ourselves from subjective to objective, goal oriented and realize your true value within? Applying whatever skills we want to implant into the new generation and implant them into ourselves first. Realizing your inner joy and power that has been created within you before even you exist. It is all written in the book of life, your days are numbered and you are created for good works and in the image of God. Seeing through others sometimes is a blessing as God is gifting you with spirituality that breaks the veil of the inner soul, yet, it is hard to go in life with it. Being on the other side one day, created within you something else different from anything around. Life is short so do not buy into the world promises and believe in the voice that is whispering to you all the time, my child follows me and I will lead your steps and guide your heart. Working in the field of my father, knowing that He is with me and never against me. Christ died for me so I may have life, eternal life, flowing with an abundance of joy and thankfulness for each breath He has given to me. We are not perfect does not mean walking on each other with spiky shoes nailing through each other's bodies and souls, the greatest enemy is you and not anyone else, you enemy is each thought that is asking you to hate, disrespect or deny the value of one another. We belong to the King of Kings so walk in this life like a prince and a princess, looking at everything with honor and glory that is how I live,I am the daughter of the highest King and The LORD of lords who owns the whole universe even my breath.
It may look utopia, yet, you are surrendering everything to Him with the willingness to learn and reflect His greatness within us. Understanding cultures may bring hard realities into our day, yet look at it as a major component into building true authentic communities when everyone walks with their values and contributions to enrich each environment they live in. What seeds, good seeds you are holding onto, release them and trust in The One who made you the way you are, do not buy into the world hurt, trust in THE ONE who made it all and you are only checking mark for what has already done, trust in THE ONE who sees you and watches over you day and night. The spirit of God lives within me.By ME" The Old Ancient Woman"
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