Can Anybody Hear???????????????

Who agrees that early development shapes the brain. Separating the mind and body is like having a glass of water with no water. Or Isolation, emotional stressors are the formula for any degenerating illness and diseases.  Stress generates 32 hormones that metabolize in the body, That turns into neurotransmitters that affect how the brain works , subsequently how the body function, We, humans, are the big resource of social experiments.  Classified as top and bottom and end results of both. The top is hard to get sick, the bottom, sickness is a natural outcome. So, we are assigned as chess pieces, woody and immobilized unless the outer force moves us.

Since, we adults are more responsible for shaping the minds of the little one, hence wherever you stand is going to pass to them, psychologically, socially, and culturally. And this formula produces the biological change in them and that is a huge impact. Separating the mind from the body doesn't work. If we see symptoms which are behaviors and ignoring the causes. So adopting the psychological modality to modify and label individual traits, doesn't give you a true solution. They represent temporary solutions as controlling behavior results in building stressed children and more future defensive, resistant, bullying,  loaded with hundreds of disorders and as a result more liable to irresponsible life choice  and more problems with law enforcement, community instability, bad economic status, heart attacks, obese, diabetics, cancer   and human disaster with medication and psychosis.

Imagine, we as societies and communities are attached to approached that sickened human being only because they are familiar, easy to be funded and controlled. Shifting the perspective to the biopsychosocial model, Neurobiological model we connect mind and body and its attachment to the environment which reflects in the social interactions and relationships. 

Since we still choose to look at children from our own ego and authoritative approach, we are repeating the same stereotypes of the present generation. What you are ignoring is the biological changes occur when children's needs are not met. We are not seeing them as human beings, we put on them our social expectations and our ego of control. We are ignoring the role of secure attachment and attunement. We are ignoring gender biological differences, we ignore their developmental features due to the separation and disconnection of understanding. Seeing them as human beings and what their needs to grow and feel safe and secure within the environment that results in good learning outcomes as natural consequences.


We are ignoring that children's behavior is a result of the inability to express their needs in words, they still developing the emotional brain, still in the reactive response, their, sympathetic nervous system and  dorsal vagal system is more active and here we see the peer attachment as an interactive result of their frustration, anger, upset and what we choose is to suppress these emotions not giving them the language to process these emotions ,we punish, control and use our authoritative patterns to suppress the learning modality and here we deal with symptoms and label each child and ignoring the real causes . We don't look at a comprehensive level in the child environment, culture, social, and psychological factors that change the biology of the child acting from the paleo limbic brain resulting in generating hurting generation who inherit unresolved issues from the adults around them, more disassociative and aggressive generation. We don't consider changing ourselves in order to pass positive secure attachment and safety that leads naturally to the excellent learning outcomes. From 0-7 that is the shaping of what to come. Children adapt to the environment they are in, so changing the environment may result in changing the outcome. So how we can grow children who are confident about who they are and still their being is not conflicting with the adult agendas,

when can we educate ourselves and others in a place of rest not striving to create secure attachments and informative care? How can we do separateness without losing togetherness, and togetherness without losing separateness, adding the piece of neurophysiology to the social engagement modality, may bring the joy and peace we are seeking to reach in our life. Creating a more healthy and self-aware, resilient generation.


We, adults, have to look back to our selves first, asking what we are trying to control? What underneath issues, unresolved yet? How were your relationships in your childhood that unconsciously are shown in your adulthood and affecting your relationship with children? Whatever pattern of attachments you had in your childhood, they control how you react to your environment and wounding your social interactions and mental health, research is still going to reach solutions on how to create sustainable, safe environment and communities that heals not to re-wounding them. Secure attachments help human beings to adapt in a wounded environment. Change yourself first before dumping your hurt on young ones.