Holiday Season and the uniqueness of each personal journey

 

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    Holidays and all the feelings that come with it,  the rush to stores, the busyness of the to-do-list, the stress and competition around, the shows, the delays, the hushhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, and the fuzziness of the to-do persona, all come in place with the holiday season. How many are starting their independent holiday season, how many are keeping the old traditions at any cost, and how many are trying to figure it out with life changes all around? How many are just fine with not showing their interest in holidays and all the worries follow, traffic, distance, workload, time off, or no time off, and we are lost with all that the world convinced us how holidays should be, and tied to this endless worries when the holiday season comes rushing in.  Even though it looks so pretty to see roads, communities, stores, and no matter where you are the season presents itself without permission from anyone. The one who was not presented is the person within the heart, mind, and soul those are no longer lives with us, those who moved away, those who never considered us part of their lives, and the shadow of the past keeps visiting when we want to move on. However, why all these heavy feelings and emotions are intense in the holiday season? What this time specifically, does it take us to past regrets or the things we missed through the busyness of life, allowing our best years to slip between our fingers like the water. 

    The holiday season is more about family, belonging, connectedness, and commitment to one another honoring the life that brought everyone together. Yet, family is not meant for everyone, some have to be their own self family and be in peace with that, it is the state of bringing yourself, the true back to yourself to be in coherence with the life you have been given freely. Our expectations from the world may be part of our own imagination, and here frustration and disappointments come into place as our minds have this ideal script about family, yet life realities present a different script. Living a life with no expectations from the world may seem far fetched image, however, it can happen after many detours, and tough lessons to learn. When you reach this state, you will realize that there are millions of scripts the world will present to you every single day, so all you need to do is to take it as it is with no questioning. As questioning will bring more confusion and disappointment. Try to be courageous enough not to question anything about the scripts presented to you. Many times we have no clue why things happen as they do? and why, we humans choose certain behaviors other than others. It is complicated. Getting to the root of the truth is something like a fairy tale so it is better to make your peace of mind a priority or you will be stressed over things out of your control. Life scripts are like a puzzle. When you figure out one piece, you get puzzled with the next piece and the process continues till you have consumed most of your mental energy leading to physical exhaustion, and accumulated sadness as you are feeling more distaned than before. The inner desire to live the meaning of family and belonging which can be tough, and confusing. And here you are faced with overwhelming emotions that may take to to places, memories, and events that left hurtful feelings in your heart and shaped or changed your perception of life. Everytime events triggers these memories. You find yourself in a place that you thought had passed. Each year more understanding is presented that the past will keep knocking on your door to keep you captive in the memories that no longer exist. The past becomes your frenemy that wants to keep you imprisoned in your pain. Your past biggest desire to see you held captive and unable to move forward. It will show itself in places, events, and conversations that will keep reminding you of the past,triggering a trauma response. You have to learn the lesson that the past won't let you go, the past gets its energy of power, and control from triggering your past. An important question you have to ask yourself is what function does it serve you when you listen to past triggers? Why do you give it power over your life, and why do you want to waste more years of your life-giving your past the same response? That may simply reflect Trauma bonding, when we survive on listening to past pain and feel exhausted, taking advantage of, used, abused, and held captive for all the dysfunctional relationships, events, places, and false expectations. 

    I understand how it hard is to break free from all these false alarms, I understand how hard have you tried to break free, and yet you come back to the vicious cycle of trauma triggers, and responses. I understand your avoidance, disassociation, escape, even aggression, or denying that functional, constructive, nurturing, healthy life ever exists. I can understand all of that and many more. Therefore, I want to join voices with you and claim a different voice that I have sometimes said it loud, "If the whole world gave up on you, never give up on yourself, you are worth it, keep trying to be kind to yourself. If the world denies your rights to life, never deny the right of your being, let it be, let it go, and start your day with the beginner mindset, practice how to be kind to yourself, with no expectations from the world around you, no promises toward anyone but yourself to treat yourself kindly, and have compassion to all have you wished have been done through your life. Each person around you has their own shadow to face, so don't worry, each has their own pain, loss, grief, and portion of life hardships. Life isn't a paradise, it is a journey filled with unwanted chapters and you are given the chance to write the present chapter the way you wished could have happened decades ago. Live life with no expectations from the world and you will reward yourself with the first step of self-care, make the season of the holiday a normal day, which may contain many activities yet not everything happening around us we have to be part of it, create your own that match who you are, where you are in your life journey, and create your own moment of joy, grace, kindness, and compassion with perspective that this is your day given freely from heaven and GOD is the ONE who is committed to your care. Therefore, GOD has given you 365 days each year once you realize this gift, choose wisely and trust HE will sustain you till you break free from all trauma and bondage that keeps tracing your steps, and life with assurance that He will sustain you, so let it be, and live your day purposefully with the intention that He is in control and His will for you is to rejoice and give thanks. Peace!!! By: ME," The old ancient woman."

    

Mindful Reflection and Navigating through a Troubled Mind ...

 

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         It is almost another year is about to close. A lot has been going on internally and eternally. Humans are not only impacted by how to manage their lives at times of uncertainties, but, the turmoils are going either politically, or socio-economically with accelerating AI technology, and a growing population that hard to get the attention they once gave to the world.  Intergenerational environments with separations of the mind Gen Z who is determined not to repeat the hardships their parents face, and take calculated steps which will bring the most benefits in less effort, and how to intelligently avoid the chaos around with keep their eye on the prize, millennials challenges with overcoming some of the past lessons and try to make up for the wasted time around doing like what others around them do or repeating the familiar path of life as being advised by either Gen X or baby boomers. it is a complex equation when it comes to those who got trapped by the vulnerability of their weak nervous system, trauma, stress, infections, heavy metal toxins, poor diet and sleep, smoking, sugar, refined and processed foods, negative relationships, and antimentor mentalities who projected their stuckness onto those with more vulnerable weak nervous systems. Human beings in a whole sum are a calculation of electrical waves, frequencies which are tied to the chemical interactions that occur on every millisecond within the body, and nutrition, sleep, movement, level of education, environment, sun exposure, pure air inhalation, and nurturing and attachments patterns are the fuel that orchestrate this state of the body homeostasis. Therefore, we humans are an electrophysiological mega computer fed upon the input and output of the context, and content of all elements mentioned about orchestrating the cell function. It is a highly defined equation stats in the Utro. By means fetus carry the foundation of these electrophysiological, and biochemical activities from many generations before, shaping their genetic predisposition for illness and sickness which can be identified earlier when there is a registry for family medical history and be discussed to see what type of interventions to reverse these genetic predispositions though the same elements mentioned above and having an open mindset for better health. 

      Unfortunately, seeking survival during wars, and economic depressions allowed commercials to find their way to humans, gradually forgetting about whole and natural food, and seeking the cheapest product presented through marketing, and invaded each pantry and house to survive by focusing on shape and taste, yet how this product will compromise the human body biochemistry and resulting in the disruption of their electrophysiology was not in the calculation. Redirecting consumption behaviors toward what is presented and eliminating the mind to think how this product will add value to my biochemistry? How much do I know about my body and its reaction toward each product? What are my deficiencies, vulnerabilities, predispositions, triggers, and things I choose, use, take, or utilize to stay within my budget? Yet, the consumption mind got attached more to social influence, and peer influence directed by the marketing psychological strategies to follow without reconsidering the outcomes, or the results a year from now or a decade from now, through acting and behaving as everyone around to attain social acceptance, fitting in, and have false sense of belonging. Even the consumption of the person's emotions in the wrong places, with wrong people that consume, drain their identity and create a troubled mind that is full of fear, doubt, anxiety, depression, and finally changing the cell function setting a good environment for physical symptoms and disease. Forgetting that your way of life, feelings, emotions, and consumption lifestyle brings health outcomes. 

         The level of suffering depends on the sum of the input and output of physiological, psychological, emotional, physical, environmental, and imitating the cultural influence reflected on personal consumption patterns to name a few that change the whole trajectory of medical and mental health, increasing the nervous system compromisation, weaken the immune system and sluggish lymphatic system, messing up the endocrine system and each organ of the body causing the tsunami on cellular level and chronic illness. When the cell function is compromised the electroneutral messages are slow, disrupted, or allowing confusion to all molecules, and receptors to go to places they are not supposed to go to , like a wandering body, doesn't know what to do under wrong messaging. 

      When we say is it medical health or mental health, which comes first? it is one of the chicken or the eggs questions and a good foundation for a research question. However, they are intertwined, Behavior is influenced by both how you feel, and meeting your biological needs by using food as fuel for energy. It looks good and smells good while using personal care products that are loaded with harmful chemicals messing up the cell function, it is building a modern house to show your accomplishments while loaded with EMF (Electromagnetic frequencies/field) due to technology) which weakens the nervous system messaging and makes people more irritable, distracted, and developing flares over their body due to overcharges within the body. It is the consumption of synthetic materials and increasing the electrostatic field disrupting the body function that may cause cancer or fragrances that increase the inflammatory response . A few examples of how human consumption behaviors and choices can set the stage for the physiological, and psychological tausanami. Physiology is not separated from the psychological factors they are together and can lead to the underlying causes, association, causation, and correlations, and allow us to consider the confounders in the equation as well. Health is a value worth investment, and making it a priority may be by taking a simple step to pay attention to the troubled mind through the input and the output of every day. How do they serve you? Do they add value to your day? Do they guide you through optimal health? or you don't want to silence the troubled mind that you got attached to the fear of no belonging or being rejected from the group? More important how do culture and group attitude have more power over your choices and decisions? And does this help you silence the troubled mind, and heal? Are you afraid to be left alone, or behind, or are you afraid to lose the fake realities that give you this delusional sense that you belong? A troubled mind creates a troubled body and deviation from what God meant for us to be. Therefore, I invite you to take time to yourself and reflect.. give yourself a change to reconnect with yourself first, to be the sound you, so you can reconnect with the right like-minded who together can guide each other to the journey of better health. Peace!! By:  ME, "The old ancient woman."